My friend wants to move out of his present studio apartment to a one bedroom apartment that is located in a neighboring
neighborhood. Everything is fine with the present one and the new one also has everything that he is looking for, especially the extra space in the extra rooms that, make it seem like a castle inside.
The question to ask in this and any other similar situation is why would you want to move? After pondering, I have come to the conclusion that, you should move only when you are the underlying reason. It’s the same with upgrading your stuff or changing jobs and many other related things. The wrong way to do it would be to move or make that new purchase because of something or somebody else. If you are spending to make an impression on them, even if they’re family, you are doing it wrong. You will be stuck at the cyclic trend of wanting to show them how much you have improved since you last interacted. In itself growth is good, but all over nature, environment induced growth only lasts while the environment is conducive.
What is going to happen to you when the people you wanted to invite turn down your invite? What if you found out they liked the old you. Sometimes, people just want you to accept them the way they are, and in most cases, that is how you meet them, when you are just yourself.
I think any improvement in life should be on our accord, not on other people’s. You and I are unique and that’s how people relate to us.
When am in my natural form, I care not about pick up lines, though I know them. I’ll just say something i think is ok for the part. Sometimes it goes well, but most of the time all I get is a mscheeww expression.
The thing is, if my natural self get that, then am cool with it, but if after investing in a good show, revising my performance and everything else, I still get the same then I’d feel ugly.
Don’t think am all natural; I fake a lot too. I also hide my true feelings and avoid contact when am not in my best self. People do that, and it’s normal, as long as it fits them, but I doubt if anyone does it for the sake of others. The way I see it, I would says it’s your character conserving energy for later, or it is restocking.
The moral of the story is that am supposed to love myself, to grow internally, to build things because I want to, and to interact with people based on who I am. If I impress anyone and everyone, then it should be because I have already impressed myself.